Dr. Jeanne King: On Domestic Violence

Biography of Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Dr. Jeanne King helps people stop domestic violence before it spirals out of control. She shows individuals and professionals in healthcare how to break the cycle of abuse and heal the wounds of interpersonal violation. She is a 30-year seasoned psychologist, published author and leading expert in identifying the subtle communication patterns of battering relationships.

 

Dr. King serves as a consulting expert in criminal and civil cases of family violence. She has extensive experience working with domestic abuse victims in high profile divorce cases involving spousal abuse, child abuse and child custody litigation.

She is skilled in psychotherapeutic process and identifying psychopathology, and has expertise in helping domestic violence survivors combat allegations of parental alienation, mental illness and, in extreme cases, improper psychiatric labeling.

She offers keynotes and training for government and healthcare organizations nationwide. She has been featured in dozens of newspapers and appeared on numerous radio and TV talk shows across the country. Her work is known as the bridge between psychology, healthcare and domestic abuse advocacy
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Dr. King received the Heart of Gold Award 2006 for outstanding humanitarian contribution by T Harv Eker Peak Potentials Training in recognition for her work in domestic abuse education with healthcare professionals.

Her groundbreaking book All But My Soul: Abuse Beyond Control has been used as a college textbook in criminal justice and has helped thousands of people break the cycle of abuse and reclaim a life of peace, dignity and respect.

Dr. King developed the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®, which is an assessment tool that makes detection of intimate partner violence more expedient and accurate in both professional and personal use.

It is the first tool to clearly bring to light the subtle communication patterns of intimate partner violence.

Dr. King earned her doctorate degree in Psychology from Northwestern University.
She was founding director of the Chicago Center for the Treatment of Pain and Stress, and past president of the Illinois Biofeedback Society.

Before shifting her focus to helping abuse survivors and their advocates, she pioneered the Biofeedback and Stress Reduction Program®, conducted in hospitals with thousands of patients for the treatment of pain, stress and illness.

Her shift in professional focus from bio-behavioral medicine to domestic abuse advocacy was precipitated by her own personal encounter with family violence and the legal abuse syndrome.

Instead of letting the tragedy of her own losses define her, she chose to turn the crash into a crusade and inspire her to help others.

That inspiration ignited the vision for Partners in Prevention: to bridge healthcare delivery and domestic abuse victim advocacy.

Partners in Prevention helps physicians and nurses nationwide to recognize domestic abuse and develop clinical skills to effectively interface, and intervene, with patients who are victims of violence.          

For more information about Dr. Jeanne King's professional experience, please see her Cirriculum Vita

For individual help with domestic abuse intervention, please visit Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program.

***Can Abusers Change?

We learned that abusers—from all walks of life—can change, despite common thinking.

The discovery we made is that the key to a successful outcome with abusive relationships
is recognizing the psychopathology underlying the batterer’s abusive behavior…and then, utilizing the proper therapy for domestic violence intervention in the context of relationship therapy.

Chances are you may have tried traditional couples counseling for the verbal,
emotional, physical or mental abuse in your relationship. And to your surprise, you may
have even encountered an intensification of the abuse symptoms while in therapy…
as though the process was enabling it.
     
Then to confuse your already complex predicament, people you confide in outside of counseling tell you to leave your partner in order to end the domestic abuse.

But, what you really want is the love you once had and the family you know.

And the last thing you want is to spend your family resources in divorce court...much less subject your innocent children to the psychological polarization inherent in domestic violence divorce.***

Quoted from Dr. Jeanne King PhD

Phazed

 

I Found This Wonderful Post Last Night As I Was Reading. It spoke volumes to me.
There Was No Title... Just An Unknown Author Named : "Phazed"

 

 

**I wanted to share this with you because a lot of people come to me and tell me they have anxiety issues, depression, or they say "I don't know what I want" or "I don't know where I should be".

 

Here are the ways I have overcome my anxieties, depression, and the core of my desires.

First of all, I want anyone reading this to notice one very important thing.

No matter where you have been, no matter where you will go, notice that you are always right here, right now. Notice that "home" is not as much an external place as it is an internal state of mind.

 

You could warp to the end of the universe, and yet you would still find yourself "here" and "now".

Now I'm no psychologist or PHD person, but for me, a lot of burden, anxiety, disappointment, was relieved when i stopped trying to be in control of every aspect of my life.

 

The more you have intentions and the more you focus on having things go a certain way, the more likely you are to find yourself in a situation you don't want, or you may find yourself disappointed most of the time.  -Relax, nothing is under control, and they don't need to be.

 

My depression also left me when I realized I am not who I was in the past, I am not my mistakes, 

I am that which has grown from them. If you find yourself in your mind looking back at mistakes from yesterday, or even last year, you will find yourself in a vicious cycle of self-hurt and identifying yourself with a mistake.  In this case, you will feel like everything about you is wrong and not going well.

Live in the past, and you will be depressed, live in the future, and you will be anxious, live in the now, and you will be at peace.

 

Now when you find yourself in situations where you go "what do I want to do, what should I be doing?" If you can't come to a solution via asking yourself this question, then you should try approaching the question from a different angle.

 

What are your intentions? What do you truly intend at the very core of your being?
Another way that may help you find an answer is to accept that you don't always have to do something. In fact, even when you do nothing at all, you're doing quite a lot of good for yourself.

 

Sometimes your body naturally desires for you to meditate, you would be surprised how many answers and relief can come to you this way. Be self-compassionate,  Don't be too hard on yourself .

No one can take "now" away from you except yourself, enjoy it, its beautiful as it is .

Have faith in life, have faith in the moment, become spontaneous with it, play with it like you dance to the music. You don't have to think about how to dance, you just do!  Resonate with life, become one with it  And you will notice, all your worries, anxieties, depressions will start dissolving, and your ego will slowly but surely become obsolete.

 

Life is your home, not a room with 4 walls and a ceiling.

 

Written By: Phazed    

Troubles With God | HD

Journey Through Silence: An Introduction

Journey Through Silence
Introduction

I have started and stopped many things in my lifetime, 
because I was lacking in my personal ability,
so it seemed, to believe in myself, and the reasons I first arrived 
at my decision to bring this book together in its content and form.

Years have passed since I first made my decision to 
open up the pages of my life, and there has been so much experience gained, that I may now more successfully depict the sovereignty and the glory of God, 
in His governance of my personal life today.

As an adult survivor of atrocities known as abuses against children, 
and my still to this day venturing toward that personal state of 
becoming [someone] who has overall overcome this tragedy,
I can tell you that there is not an altogether very dignified 
and graceful element in the process of healing.  
Personally speaking that is.

Healing, demands within itself a self intended willingness to go back; 
back into the deepest reservoirs of self; doing so with a purposed intention 
of recall, reflection and recovery, beginning at the base 
from the inside of the broken child.

Healing requires a personal revisiting so to speak 
of the nightmarish world and reality of having been deliberately 
and systematically abused.

Journey Through Silence is about crossing bridges, figuratively speaking.

It is a compilation of written expression centered upon the personal experience of my victimization, yet having overcome the many
abusive instances suffered throughout my childhood.

Journey Through Silence is a book about brokenness
and the tremulous chaos inside the human spirit
once wounded and dysfunctional.

A journey that encompassed the various tragedies and
the inevitable triumphs that followed in accordance with Gods’ grace.

This journey envelops the tangled concepts of dirty secrets,
family loyalties and the burden of shame.

My journey through silence has brought me forward to the
doorstep of self-discovery and self-recovery. 
Journey Through Silence is about the power of forgiveness 
and my journey toward healing, boldly forward and through
the treacherous vortex of emotional anguish 
and spiritual detachment.

Journey Through Silence is about finding ones voice
after many years of silence.

Only God could move the mountainous obstruction 
of the shame that once paralyzed me. 

It is here that I surrender my silence.

 An Empowered Woman

Each day I am presented with an incredible lesson inside the experiences and challenges too that have and do continue to come my way.  So is life.
I have grown to realize that attitude, namely mine, has so much to do with the outcomes of life's challenging events, moments and questions.
Whether I'll pass through, or fail these challenges, is at most up to me.
That is a rather empowering perspective; for me anyway.  I have had enough [time] to basically sit down and take a long hard look at my life; my steps along the way.

Today, I'd proudly stand up and say, I am an empowered woman; proudly but not arrogantly.
I've collected numerous experiences along my journey on this road called life. 
Some experiences that I'd prefer at some points to spare the details, but yet, I am more inclined to go there and divulge details so that the fullness of my life can be further emphasized, and somehow better understood.

I've collected what I refer to as"pearls of wisdom" along my personal journey throughout life; those in which I have now folded into my life's reference tool kit; this is my life...
That I may present myself as an open book, thus expands my fullness in freedom...
...therefore expanding my fullness in life.

I welcome you to the doorstep of my Journey Through Silence.